Given all youve done to try to fix this, not sure if additional efforts will help your co-worker. I worked with someone who really didnt like one of our co-workers so she was constantly making mean comments about this person scent and appearance. From what Ive read, it seems that if this happened to me I would have to spend several hundred dollars replacing every toiletry and all laundering supplies in my home, wash everything I own multiple times and most likely get all coats and heavy fabrics dry cleaned, and even THEN the coworker may still not be happy with my potential scent. ;). Curiously enough, the first symptom I get is irritability, and my fight or flight response kicks in. Theres a lot of people here with many suggestions on how to work with your co-worker to stamp out any lingering smells. This will force the co-worker to either repeat his comment in front of everyone with the same level of confrontation, or soften his approach. I remember a news story about one scent-allergic student who simply couldnt be accommodated by her university. I work closely with her, so I immediately apologized and washed it off, and havent worn any of my perfume since. Telling someone they have to drastically alter their *non work life* to accommodate someone that doesnt like a smellhell, even someone with allergies or migrainesisnt cool. I dont wear the one perfume I own (which is very light and solid perfume so I can wear a very small amount) to work because I dont want to disturb coworkers. Yes. Youre right that at this point shes probably already tried most or all of these things it really does sound like the OP is being extremely accommodating! Youre talking about general, being-in-the-world sounds and scents. Love this anecdote. If you let mgmt/HR know you want to do what you can to address your co-workers sensitivities, youll be seen as proactive and sympathetic. Hopefully your boss can accommodate and move her, or you? Yeah, I have definitely smelled things that werent there. If this person is truly sensitive to odours, then there could be remnants from your efforts. Oh, Jager I cant be near it. I know he hangs his clothes out to dry, but hes a super cost cutter when it comes to his home, so thats possibly the issue. My problem is that this coworker is now complaining constantly about the perfume Im not wearing! Its super easy to become immune to a constant smell. Even if it turns out that there is something about the OP that triggers the co-worker, it seems to me that its become a problem that the co-worker (and possibly the employer) needs to work out. I wouldn't blame anyone for dunking their heads into a basket of feral man meat hammocks. On the other hand theres a series of scents lemon, lemongrass, patchouli, amber, deep vanillas, musks, that are a holdover from the old hippie scents phase from Coty and Loves and Avon. (I try to share this with people if theyd believe me and not be offended [e.g., my boyfriend] so they know why I might have to suddenly leave the room, but lots of people think this is totally fake and incredibly rude [e.g., my mother, who unfortunately chews with her mouth open in a way that taps into my crazybrain]. Hes little and sneaks off and pees in low-traffic corners so its easy to miss. Im in the group that hates the smell of patchouli. Pretty certain the vent was the culprit as once we moved to a different area she didn't emit nearly as much noise. Snarky or not, it does highlight that the problem is the co-workers to solve, not the OPs. Id also be thanking Boss for talking to you. if there is a sensitivity at play here, it should be on the workplace to figure out an accommodation for the affected employeenot for OP to try even harder to obliterate every aromatic molecule from her clothes/jackets/chairs/PORES(?!!?? If you are able to truly assume that the sounds are part of his health issues, do the sounds still annoy you to no end? if there was someone I work with who had a scent sensitivity, Id be sensitive to that. as a manager, should I not wear a childless shirt in my off-hours? Blondie batter? The longer we are exposed, the more affected and sensitive we are. But I love my body wash and would be very unwilling to give it up as it doesnt seem to be nearly as potent as perfume. its another to try to force someone to, say, buy a new wardrobe and try pills and special washes to absolutely rule out any and all possible causes. Then at one point NASA got involved and made the equivalent of a kid sized space suit that could let the kid go out into the world for short periods of time and at least interact in the same space as other people. Personally, Im allergic to dogs and Ive had coworkers come in with coats/clothes with dog hair on them and I would never ask them to make major changes to their routine outside of work for me. I went through a brief patchouli phase in my late teens. Or heck, if OP stores the oils on or in her dresser, it may be that some of the clothing items have picked up a hint of the scent. I cant hear what my sons saying if hes sitting next to me but facing the other direction, but cant not hear him eating popcorn from the other room. Its a hippie scentmaybe. Im assuming the OP has always worn fragrance and stopped last month when the coworker could smell it. I recommend using those products only with direction from your doctor., Nasal obstruction. Would you dig up your Mister Lincoln roses for the coworkers sake? ), Or, more likely, the company will discontinue it or reformulate and I will buy up every tub of the old stuff I can find and then spend another year or so searching for a replacement. A lot of times they put them on 12 hours ago for a night out and arent planning on taking a shower until after work the next day. Vinegar is good at getting out the smell of smoke too. This should prevent any other smells from entering her nose. They dont have added scent, but a lot of chemicals smell. I feel like it's so rude and inconsiderate of other coworkers. Its one thing to say dont wear perfume/aftershave/etc at work. It is not a matter of simply not liking something. Never again! (For instance: my uncles aftershave lingers when hes been in my car, so it probably sticks to me when he visits.) I stopped wearing it to work when you asked me to. or just Nope, not me. and then either ignore the co-worker or go on talking about the TPS reports or whatever. I just wanted to thank you for being considerate to your coworker and refraining from wearing your perfumes to work. Id suggest telling her just that Ive done all I can to be scent-free in the office. Buy a token set of headphones and see how it goes for a week. Im chemically sensitive to cheap perfumes, something in the inexpensive stuff triggers asthma and migraines. I have some sympathy for people with asthma, etc, but I have to admit not as much as others on the board. They should only be sniffing when you give them their release word (like "Break" or "Ok"). The supervisor just said to do it after shed gone home. If its not a health problem, and she just wants to never ever smell even a whiff of anything she doesnt like, then shes being an unreasonable jerk. You've been told. That usually means they are fooling around or are a snitch. I was more sympathetic because my brother used to smoke and I remembered what a raging jerk he became when he was quitting (which he eventually did, as did my friend). I work in a normal law firm type atmosphere and several employees are rocking strong cologne and perfume that does indeed linger in the air or on my clothes/hair. I bet the letter writer burns incense, which is pervasive and will stick to clothing. I have miso and I sniffle. Their idea of unscented is, to me, to just kill me with a scent I cant define. Its not like youre shoving incense sticks up her nostrils. Anyway, since then the smell is so offensive to me. LW treat this as a bullying issue, not a health issue, and proceed accordingly. Amazing. That said, though, the perfume I was wearing the day she complained didnt actually have any patchouli in it, and I wear my patchouli-scented oils very sparingly. Freshly applied perfume, sure, thats reasonable to ask people not to do. Stop using the lemon-scented body wash for a few days and see if she keeps making the comments. I don't think he would ever be unfaithful to me and I don't think he is guilty of anything other than getting to know his coworkers and being friendly. But wayward snacks and toys arent the only things that can block nasal passages. For about a week, it was great! I have the worst reaction to it myself. Oh trust me, I've been trying to get a private office for years. When a guy opens up to you, he has feelings for you. To me it really just sounds like coworker is trying to make something out of that and mocking OP with the old smelly hippie stereotype. (Again, I am not wearing ANY perfume, my deodorant is unscented, I shower every morning and my body wash is lightly lemon scented and doesnt stick around.) McCoy is a journalism graduate of Ryerson University. Youre going a long way to accommodate her, which is nice of you. I would also say they need to go to their manager or HR. BLOW YOUR NOSE! Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. My coworker is constantly coughing and blowing her nose My coworker who I share an office with has been sick for the past month and a half. You did the decent thing by switching up your products when she first complained, and if shes still having a reaction to something, she needs to explore other potential sources (asking for your help in a respectful way if needed). Is it at all possible that after a long time of using scents theyre settled into a chair or the office? Yes: If you are delibrately "sniffing" also known as huffing, you can cause damage to your brain, heart, liver, kidneys. Its really hard to find an average drug store might have one type of unscented shampoo for babies. OP, Im someone who doesnt always do well with strong scents, and I think your coworker is acting like a jerk. And that's because your coworker might not even know that she likes you yet. I hope something works for the person who wrote this! I didnt wear any scent, but switched to unscented everything to be polite and actually reported the change to HR and my manager. It still may after a reasonable test end up being something about the OP. Thoughts?. Im bringing this angle up because your coworker was wearing it after a weekend and doesnt seem to wear it every day. And its usually not like I can just switch from the scented version to the unscented one the one Im using is the only thing there is! Its reached the point where it feels like juvenile bullying and I honestly dont know what to do. Check out these four natural remedies to nix spring allergies. I have had to give away clothes I bought on eBay before that were so saturated with perfume that I could not wash it out, even with multiple washings and with leaving the garment hanging outside in the fresh air a long time. Yeah. And while you'd just love to tell them to. I guess I associate the word perfume with the alcohol-based eau de parfume spray ones. Stop eating any food that has the potential to be fragrant? Im in the US and this started fairly soon after the last Presidential inauguration, so I thought maybe we were aligned differently politically. I finally had to write up one worker who insisted on spraying perfume in the office. There could be other causes: Someone like me would obviously be a real problem for OPs coworker. At Thanksgiving, people give me a look when I say I dont like turkey very much. I ended up leaving for another job. Until then, yeah, the scent will cling to you and your clothes. Please cut it out.). Is there something else youre hoping Ill try? The other day, I was waiting for the elevator and he hurried over, asked me to hold the elevator so he could leave too. I would go to HR myself and complain that I am being harassed by a co-worker who in spite of your having ended wearing the perfume that bothered her is waging a campaign of harassment against you. Never blows his nose, or uses a tissue Its very distracting, and personally I find it disgusting. Advertising on our site helps support our mission. They Are Constantly Complaining About You: If a coworker constantly complains about you, they want the bosses to know that they are not happy with you. Im not going to cycle through god knows how many detergents and cleaning products to find one that both works for our youngest kid (eczema), is affordable, and isnt bothersome/an allergen to a random third party. I just wonder how strongly it can stick to clothes if thats how the fragrance is transferring. and although I can never smell my hair, someone will occasionally mention how good my hair smells, especially if my hair comes in contact with rain or is wet for some other reason. You can always go to HR on the day she complains about your scent, and point blank ask them if they smell it. It came on after a bad cold last year. yeah, the patchouli AGAIN? comment is what makes me think rude coworker over coworker with scent sensitivities. Usually trying to clear the flood and congestion by blowing my nose is like trying to slam a logjam through the eye of a needle. Im aware of it even if its barely an element of the scent. The readers have some great ideas. Its unreasonable of me to ask a coworker to adjust her perfume when shes not at work.). Where a light scented spray of perfume or body mist or even deodorant will fade away throughout the day, patchouli oil is there forever. There was a time when I burned incense almost daily and I loved the smell in my house, but it never occurred to me the degree it was sticking to my clothes and how much you could smell it on me when I was at work etc. Yeah, I use some pretty cheap shampoo/conditions (yay Suave!) Don't Lose Your Cool. I find it appalling. This is my biggest hurdle. Whats Causing That Salty Taste in Your Mouth? Yeah, youre not alone in wondering this. My mom taught me this trick. Note to commenters:There have been loads of suggestions below for additional ways the letter-writer could tackle potential scents and stamp them out. The funny thing is my mom uses patchouli, so I associate that particular scent with mom-ly ladies. Privacy Policy and Affiliate Disclosures, our group member has a fragrance sensitivity - and we're supposed to be hugged to check for any scents, my employees husband wont stop calling me to complain about her evaluation, http://www.emilysstomach.com/2013/06/aversions-to-food-and-why-smells-make.html, should I tell my coworker about our colleagues criminal record, I deeply regret joining my companys leadership program, and more, my company is cutting my overworked teams pay as punishment for mistakes. They never get to work on time and are five to fifteen minutes late every single day. His family would get so angry about it when he was younger. The vinegar smell has always washed for me, but I know some people who add 1-2 drops of EO to add some lavender/peppermint scent to it, but that opens the door to other complaints anyways. If she had a genuine allergy, would she not also be having a genuine allergic reaction? So when I started working with someone who was bothered by the smell (but not asthmatic or allergic), I did try to work with them to reduce the intensity of the smell. I can do that too. She requested I be moved. If you have a sniffling toddler, youll definitely want to check that a blueberry or a bead didnt magically make its way up a nostril. This. I had a problem like this a long time (6 years) ago I found it finally went away when I reduced the stress in my life and got treatment from several alternative health practitioners: regular massage, kinesiology and chiropractic treatments and that eventually allowed my body to relax and eventually the sniffing reduced and disappeared. Perhaps he has the scent-free version that my two cents mentioned. OP tell your coworker that youve done all you will do and to knock it off. I have a friend who I trade clothes with regularly when we get sick of stuff in our closet and I have to wash the clothes that come from her several times over before I can even stand to wear them, and several times over again before I cant smell it at all. Its so heavily scented (even the I scented version) that it will likely be much much worse. I couldnt smell it approaching the rack, but it was very apparent in my home. update: how can I turn down training requests from my clients? If those same people saw the fire, theyd be grateful and not at all offended. I doubt many people would exaggeratedly sniff their coworker and say ugh, Chanel No. Shame and guilt. You have a meeting. Does coworker comment on every male in the office that uses cologne or Old Spice deodorant? People cant go through life expecting to never have to encounter faint scents. LW has gone above and beyond to accommodate this. This is how our body protects itself. I feel like this thread could be about my brother once he gets an office job. To me, sniffling is like nails on a chalk board. Personally, I don't mind the sound of someone blowing their nose. And laundry care routines arent always simple either my mom has allergic reactions to many common brands of detergent, so finding a new unscented brand that doesnt make her break out in hives would be, again, a trial and error process that could get expensive fast. The thing is the shoe sniffing was accidental, not intentional. My jacket? I switched to unscented laundry stuff, shampoo, body wash and antiperspirant but the complaints continued. I posted this under Rhinitis because it's the closest thing I've found so far. Not only that, but it can also be a sign that your female coworker likes you but is hiding it. Policy. It smells like unwashed bodies with bad b.o. But seriously? My boss, his boss and my other coworkers agreed that neither of us smelled but the complaints continued. In the end, he just didnt ride down with me, but in the days since then hes retold the story to all our coworkers about how I made him feel bad by saying he smells. I was an intern and during a slow period, my supervisor told me to wipe down some shelves with some kind of cleaner. Maybe that really is whats going on here. I used to use an incense in my apartment and didnt realize how it clung until I started to get compliments on my perfume. Thank you! At least she would actually SEE you trying something and, who knows, it might take care of any lingering scents. What can I say, I both went through a goth phase in high school AND lived in San Francisco for several years! I wonder if OP has tried washing her clothes with a diluted vinegar mix? :D (Rabbit is pretty up there too actually and remarkably similar to chicken.). 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